Good Morning!

It's Thursday! Almost there! Hold on for one me day guys because it's almost Friday!

I hope everyone has a wonderful day even if it doesn't seem like it's going to be a good day.

I know that my day hasn't started off as well as expected, but I am going to try my hardest to stay positive and optimistic just to make it through. 

xoxo,

The Rambling Tea☕

The Time I: Got Hit On By A 60 Year Old!

Yes! You read the title right! Read on for the deets:

I am at a party hosted by a really good friend of mine. It was a pretty good turn out. There was a mixture of family and friends. The music was great and the vibes were chill. Everyone was having a good time and so was I. 

If I'm not mistaken, I think I was the only black person there which really didn't matter to me since I am very used to that. Ha! Any who, let's get to what I was wearing and what I think caused the attraction to me in the first place other than my flawless brown skin. I had on a blue, above the knee lace dress.( No, it was not see-through either!) It was not tight, but it showcased the right things in the right places. The back had a cutout heart shape just above my upper back. It was very cute and I looked great in it. 

I am staying to myself and getting a drink at the bar. You know, just minding my business. Then I feel these creepy eyes practically undressing me. It was very unsettling. You know how you can feel someone staring at you and their eyes are like daggers through your clothes and into your soul? Yea, that feeling. So I look over and I can see these creepy dagger eyeballs and the worst thing happens....HE SMILED AT ME! IT.WAS.GROSS! First off, I am NOT attracted to men in the golden years of age unless its Richard Gere, George Clooney, or Denzel Washington, get my drift? Plus, he had what looked like old dentures in his mouth. No offense to anyone reading that wears dentures, or anyone else that may be offended by this for that matter, but his teeth took me back to the George Washington era! You could obviously tell that they were dentures and worst of all, they were not those clean, stainless, and white ones you see on the denture commercials. His were just atrocious and brown like he had been eating wood or sewage! Once "George Washington" smiled at me, immediately I felt my stomach turn and my eyes were just stuck at his teeth.

I look away just so I don't have to make eye contact or see those horrid teeth again! Next thing I know, I feel a light, cold, and clammy tap on my shoulder. I'm thinking to myself,"Please don't let it be him. Let it be someone else, please!" Unfortunately, my first mind failed me and it was good old "George". My heart dropped as he proceeds to ask me how old I am and why I am sitting at the bar alone. I lied and told him that I was 20(I was 22 at the time). BIG MISTAKE because this seemed to fuel him. "George" tells me how beautiful I am and how great I look in my dress. He offers to pay for any food or drink I want and take me out to dinner. GROSS! He then starts to tell me about how much money he made in a year off of his retirement and how much money he likes to blow at the casino on a regular basis. I am already over the conversation as well as creeped out that he felt the need to even approach me. That was easily detectable from my facial expression. Then, he drops a bomb on me when he says that he's married. My first mind was shocked because I don't think he should be hitting on anyone since he is obviously MARRIED, but since he smelt like he had been drinking since the day before, I brushed it off. But wait, there's more! He then proceeds to tell me that he and his wife are SWINGERS and she wouldn't mind a "young, brown skinned, babe" spicing it up in the bedroom! I immediately wanted to throw up in my mouth. Just the thought of this disgusting act alone was enough for me! I awkwardly smiled at him and told him that I was NOT interested and that I would NEVER, EVER be interested. Usually, when you deny someones request, they accept defeat. But not "George". Instead he says," Here's my card. My personal number is on it and you call me if you're ready to have some fun." My facial expression was that of disgust. "George" winked, flashed those gross dentures at me, and walked off as if he had accomplished something. I had never been so grossed out, confused, and shocked in all my life.

Yep, this actually happened. No, his name was not really "George" but since his dentures were as brown as wood, his name was that for this story. 

I hope you enjoyed! I will post more "The Time I:" stories. What are your thoughts?

Thanks for reading!

xoxo,

The Rambling Tea☕

Talk of the Town: Dallas, Texas Ebola Patient Dies!

Thomas Duncan, a Liberian man who was diagnosed with Ebola in Dallas, Texas died today at 7:51 am at the age of 42. He had been critically ill and was the very first person to be diagnosed with Ebola in the US.

                                                  (New York Times)

Since the diagnosis, Duncan had been receiving the experimental drug Brincidofovir and was being treated at Texas Health Presbyterian Hospital. According the hospital, Duncan was on a ventilator, had been receiving dialysis, and his symptoms appeared to be improving. This resulted in the downgrade of his condition from serious to critical this past Saturday.  Of course, the hospital where Duncan had been treated has received a great deal of criticism for failing to recognize his symptoms. He first arrived to the hospital on Sept. 25, received an antibiotic, and was sent home. I am sure he also let the hospital know that he had come in contact with someone who died of Ebola prior to his checkout.

Apparently, Duncan had been visiting family in Texas when his symptoms appeared in September. Earlier in the month, it is said that he assisted a woman in Liberia who later died of the virus as well. This is probably how he came in contact with it. I send my condolences to his family.

Our government needs to take this Ebola virus more seriously. There needs to be some kind of border control or screenings done at the airports. This can get out of control if nothing is done to stop it!

Read the initial article hear:Huffington Post: Thomas Duncan dies of Ebola in Dallas, Texas

What are your thoughts?

Thanks for reading!

xoxo,

The Rambling Tea☕

Good Morning!

It's #HumpDay which means we are getting closer to Friday! For all you hipsters out there, its also #WomanCrushWednesday. That's not really important but just thought I'd throw that in there.

I hope everyone has a great day today! Make it count regardless of where you are or what you have planned for the day. I will leave you all with this:

"Don't LIMIT yourself. Many people limit themselves to what they THINK they can do. You can go as far as your MIND lets you. What YOU believe, remember, YOU CAN ACHIEVE."

Enjoy your day!

xoxo,

The Rambling Tea☕

Talk of the Town: '7th Heaven' dad facing child molestation allegations!

I wish this was a more happier post. But I have to rant about this one! This truly saddens and upsets me because I am a 90's kid and watched '7th Heaven'. Of course, the show has nothing to do with his sick actions. He is at fault for this. So, lets get to the point:

Apparantly, the actor, Stephen Collins, admitted to molesting a young girl and exposing himself to two others. According to TMZ, there was an audiotape of him speaking about these actions in a therapy session with his ex wife Faye Grant. The NYPD is reportedly investigating said allegations due to the fact that one of the girls is currently living in New York. These allegations have also cost him his role in the sequel, "Ted 2". 

This is just disgusting. I have absolutely no remorse, pity, or sympathy for anyone that wrongs a child in ANY way! I hope these children get justice! I also hope that he gets help and jail time. There is no excuse for these actions.  For this to have been kept a secret for so long, who knows if these were the only ones! You just never know these days. These sickos could be living right next door to you and your children, working at the schools, or anywhere for that matter! 

We need to educate our children on what to do in situations where they can be harmed. We also need to teach them not to keep secrets. Have a close and open relationship with your children so they wont be afraid to come to you if anything like this ever happens to them!

What are your thoughts?

Thanks for reading.

xoxo,

The Rambling Tea☕

You can read the full TMZ article here: TMZ: '7th Heaven' Dad Stephen Collins Shocker

Relationship Chronicles: 2

What is more important: Sex or Intimacy?

This is something to debate about right? Some people may not even know the difference between the two. Here's what I think......

Sex:

The word itself is interesting right? A few things come to mind when I hear this word. Meaningless, one-night stands, hook-ups, etc. In my opinion, sex is something that you can get from anywhere. A friend, a random person you meet at a club or party, someone you met online, someone you don't even have feelings for can have sex with you. It sounds a little crazy but, hear me out. Sex is a physical act. Something you do for pleasure or some people might say to "get your rocks off". There are no feelings or meaning in this. Sex is should be considered "the most intimate act", but it can also be an act without consent, an act which is paid for, or a mere physical exchange.

Intimacy:

The word alone sounds better than "sex". To be intimate, that involves feelings and emotions. Intimacy takes time to build. So many things are involved in this. Intimacy can only be achieved when you know and care for someone deeply, when you TRULY love, have a deep connection, and feel completely free with someone. This is why it is so different from just "sex". You don't even have to know someone to have sex with them. This is sad, but true given the morals and standards of so many people today. However, you don't need sex to be intimate with your partner. Intimacy can be mind stimulation, spending quality time with your significant other, connecting through non-sexual contact as well and not necessarily a scene from your favorite erotica themed book.


What if I told you that in a really deep, connected, and strong relationship both of these combined are important? You can have one without the other in a good relationship. For instance, say your partner is not able to actually get physical with you sexually due to some preexisting medical condition. That doesn't mean that you can't connect with them on an intimate level. However, it can be argued that there is nothing more intimate than vulnerably offering yourself to someone in the physical act of sex, therefore connecting the two terms again, even in the case of a one-night stand. Being intimate involves you being open, honest, and giving yourself as a whole to your partner. Doing that can  make your relationship stronger and help through out all aspects including in the bedroom.

What do you think is more important? What do these things mean to you? I want to know your thoughts!

Personally, I don't think that sex is better than intimacy. I think they are better combined.

xoxo,

The Rambling Tea☕

Thanks to http://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2013/04/26/how-does-sex-differ-from-intimacy/ for helping me get a better understanding on this.

10 Reasons Not to Wrong Me

Ok, I am usually a very nice person. Sometimes, people like to take my kindness for weakness. When that is done, the bad side comes out. For the most part, I try to stay cool, calm, and collected as I am not very confrontational when it comes to certain things. I don't allow myself to get to this point all the time. It usually takes a lot. But, once that side comes out, you will think twice about crossing me. Here are 10 reasons why:


1. I can ruin your life. Literally, I will destroy whatever happiness you have left and not think twice about it. Read on to see how...
2. I can and will delete every memory of you from my life. Seriously, from the moment our paths crossed, to the moment I cut you off, everything can get erased. I don't have time to deal with negativity or drama for that matter. What makes you think that you are the exception?
3. I have absolutely no problem with ignoring any attempts from you trying to make things right. Obviously, since its so easy for me to delete your existence, this is even easier.
4. I am quick to respond with "Who is this?" if you send me any messages whether on social media or through text. Deleting your existence also includes deleting your contact information from EVERYTHING. The perfect "revenge" is someone realizing they have actually been deleted from your life and have been "forgotten".
5. KARMA. If you think that this is nonexistent, think again. Whatever you do to wrong me, will come back on you twice as hard. Just sit back and watch that happen.
6. I can walk right past you and not even see or speak to you. I don't want to say that I hold grudges, but once I delete you from my life, that's it.
7. Any mutual friends we have, will know what you did to me. When we are no longer seen together at group functions, our friends will want to know why. Of course, I will let them know. But it's up to them to decide whether they want to deal with you still. Lets hope not since you would probably wrong them as well eventually.
8. You wont be able to win this war. In order for you to win, I would have to allow you to still make me upset, bother me, or interfere in my life. But honey, how is that possible if you don't exist? Think about that.
9. Even though #2 states that I don't have a problem deleting your existence....... I could still be spiteful and keep you as a friend on all of my social networks. I could keep you around just to torture you with all of the things I am doing without you. You know why...because I can be a Mean Girl and torture you in that way. Unfortunately, you don't even deserve to still be able to look into my life in that way. Sorry...not sorry.
10. I will continue to stay happy with or without you. Your existence will NOT determine my happiness. I would totally not be bothered because again, there would be absolutely no recollection of your existence in my world.


This was fun to write! If this made me seem like a mean person, maybe I am. I think everyone has a little mean in them. Everyone has a limit. Everyone has a certain point when they are tired of dealing with drama and negativity from others. I honestly try my hardest to do right by everyone. Even if they wrong me. It takes a lot to get me to this point. If you stay on my good side, you wont have to worry about this treatment happening to you.

"If they don't bring positivity, they don't mean you any good. Rid your life of negative vibes, negative people, and negativity in general. Life is too short to deal with people who mean you harm."

Thanks for reading!

xoxo,

The Rambling Tea☕