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RELATIONSHIP CHRONICLES!

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UPDATE!!

Hey y'all!

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XOXO,

The Rambling Tea☕

Relationship Chronicles: 8

Hey ladies and gents!

It's been a while!  I have been a little  under the weather lately. I blame the Southern Mississippi climate changes of the Fall season! Any who, I have been getting a lot of questions about relationships lately. Most of these questions have been about "COMMITMENT". Well, for all of you out there that know me (or have read any of my previous posts), I am very opinionated when it comes to relationships and the things that I think are acceptable and things that aren't.

Now, when I hear the word "COMMITMENT" I think of the ultimate one....MARRIAGE. Again, this is just my opinion so feel free to disagree with me on this if you must. Yes, you can be in a "COMMITTED" relationship, but the actual "COMMITMENT" is when you both say,"I do" before God, place rings on each others finger, and vow to love one another 'til death do you both part. That is the actual commitment. I say this because when you are just boyfriend and girlfriend, that is exactly what you are. You are NOT his wife, and he is NOT your husband. I don't care how long you have been together, or if you live together and ACT as if you are HUSBAND and WIFE. COMMITMENT to me is not what boyfriend and girlfriends do. That my friends, is what I call "DATING". Yes, when you are in a relationship and you really love that person, you will be COMMITTED to them in a sense but not really. I call that the CHOICE to only be with that one guy or girl. But the ACTUAL COMMITMENT is when you BOTH CHOOSE to be with one another for the rest of your lives. Not just be boyfriend and girlfriend forever.

This brings me to my next point...."Shacking up" together. No, I am not perfect. No, I am not married. So keep in mind that this is just my opinion. I was always taught that you date, get engaged, get married, and then move in together. I'm sure most people were taught this as well. However, we are in 2014 and I am sure that most people don't go by this at all anymore. I'm not even going by this. When you love someone and are in a relationship, sometimes things happen and you end up living with each other. Now, when doing that, you start to become comfortable, pay bills with each other, learn the ways of one another, and so on.  But, depending on the person, this may also result in what I call a "STAND STILL". This means, that there is NO RUSH to change things since you are living and acting as if you are a "MARRIED COUPLE".  Why would things change? Your partner may want you to cook for them, clean up after them, give them sex whenever they want, and pretty much whatever else a "WIFE" or "HUSBAND" is supposed to do for their spouse. (Now every relationship is different and everyone doesn't have to go through this, but in most cases this is true. ) This is where the issue is. It is ok to do nice things for your girlfriend or boyfriend. It is ok to try to test things and see how they could possibly be for you two in the future, but it is NOT ok to expect things from your BOYFRIEND or GIRLFRIEND that should honestly be coming from your HUSBAND or WIFE! You can however expect your girlfriend or boyfriend to treat you with RESPECT, show you what LOYALTY is, and most importantly LOVE.

I feel that the purpose of a relationship is to build up to MARRIAGE. Grow, learn, and build each other up to that TRUE COMMITMENT. Don't expect your BOYFRIEND to act like your HUSBAND or your girlfriend to act like your WIFE if there are no RINGS and no one has said, "I DO".

I hope someone enjoyed this! Thanks for reading!

XOXO,

The Rambling Tea☕

Talk of the Town: Honey Boo Boo Show Cancelled by TLC due to Mama June Dating a Child Molester

TLC has confirmed the decision to cancel their show, "Here Comes Honey Boo Boo". Apparently, Mama June has began dating someone who has served jail time for being convicted of molesting a family member of hers!

According to TMZ, Mama June is dating the man who forced oral sex on her daughter, Anna. The man goes by the name of Mark McDaniel. He served 10 years in prison and was released in March this year. That is when McDaniel and Mam June began dating. Law enforcement say that the two aren't doing anything wrong by dating each other and they wont do anything about it until someone does something illegal. The only thing that law enforcement can be done is keep him on "radar".  McDaniel is also not legally excluded from being around anyone in the family except for Anna. Sources say that Anna doesn't want anything to do with him or be around him and I don't blame her! Child Services also can't do anything unless the children are actually threatened.

If this isn't the most disgusting thing I have heard about this week! I can NOT believe that A MOTHER who cares about her children and their safety would EVER date someone who HURT their child in this way! HOW can you say that you LOVE your children?!? HOW can you say that you even CARE about your children?! I DON'T CARE about forgiveness at this point! I pray for the safety of those children! But, Mama June, I have absolutely no respect for mothers like her! All for the "love" of someone else?! I CAN'T EVEN BEGIN TO EXPRESS MY ANGER TOWARDS HER! WHAT A SORRY EXCUSE FOR A PARENT! SOMETHING NEEDS TO BE DONE!

 

What are your thoughts on this situation??? I am very eager to know what my readers think!

The Rambling Tea☕

Relationship Chronicles: 7

5 Things Needed for Your Relationship to Thrive

Sure everyone wants the perfect relationship where there is nothing but fluffy clouds of happiness, sugarcoated smiles, and everlasting memories all of the time. Unrealistic! Every couple has ups and downs but it is up to the two of you to decide if the relationship is worth having. If it is not, 

someone needs to choose to walk away. If it is, you have to decide what needs work and what you are willing to do to make it work. Here is a short list of things to help with that:

1. Kind, constant, and honest communication: Ok, if you have a problem in your relationship, the only way to solve the problem is COMMUNICATING. If you don't speak it, your partner wont know. Open your mouth and let it out. The more you talk, the better.
2. The will to work through problems: If you and your partner can face problems head on regardless of how difficult it may be, your relationship will be better off. You BOTH have to be willing to work through obstacles and disagreements. If not, good luck with your relationship lasting.
3. Fun, fun, fun!: Who wants to be in a boring, dry, and dull relationship? I know that I don't! Find out what you both like to do and do it! Go out there and have some fun together! Take some spontaneous trips, or surprise them with tickets to their favorite movie, or heck go on a road trip! You have to keep the excitement going!
4. Emotional support: In a relationship, you and your partner are supposed to lift each other up. Be there for each other in times of need and show one another how much you care for them. Remember, actions speak louder than words! You can say you care for them all you want, but showing them as well will make the difference.
5. Love, intimacy, romance, sex: These are the BUILDING BLOCKS. If you don't love your partner, desire and intimacy wont be there either. The romance will also be nonexistent. Sex, well, you can get that from anywhere. But in a relationship, genuinely show and prove all 4 of these and I promise you both will be happier. If you feel that the spark is gone, figure out a way to get the fire started again. 

There you have it readers! I will be making more additions to this list in later posts because a relationship is a lot of work and it takes a whole lot more that just these 5 things. I hope this helped someone and I also hope that it was enjoyable to read! Check back soon for more posts!

Thanks for reading!

XOXO,

The Rambling Tea☕

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Good Morning!

Good morning everyone!

It's hump day! We are almost to FRIDAY! I know I have been slacking on my posting! I apologize for that! =[ Today I will get back to posting. I KNOW I SAID THAT MONDAY, but today I have some new topics to post. I hope everyone has a fantastic day today! Make it great!

XOXO,

The Rambling Tea☕

Where have I been?!

Good morning readers!

I know some of you have been wondering where I have been and why I haven't been posting regularly. Well, here's a quick update:


I have been getting ready for some big and new changes in my life. If you follow me on Facebook, you know that I have been applying and interviewing for new jobs. I have also been under a lot of stress from all aspects of life. After countless let downs, I finally ended up getting the job that I wanted. I will get paid more as well as have great benefits. It will also allow me to be at home a little bit more with my son. So that is one thing that I have accomplished! I have a few more things in store and I will be updating you all along the way. But, for now, I will have 2 weeks of free time, so I will do my best to get back to posting regularly!

Thanks for being patient with me on this journey all!

XOXO,

The Rambling Tea☕

Talk of the Town: STEPHEN COLLINS VICTIM FINALLY COMES FORWARD!!

Here we are again with Stephen Collins and his skeletons that are finally coming out of the closet!

                                         Photo: Matt Sayles, AP

TMZ reported and confirmed today that he is now under investigation by a third law enforcement agency for allegedly molesting/exposing himself to young girls. The victim herself came forward to file the complaint! FINALLY! The woman was 13 at the time and has now gone to law investigators with her allegations!

According to TMZ, sources say that the incident involves a relative of a neighbor during the summer of1983. On the released audiotape of Collins confession, he stated that he later "apologized" to the victim years later. The NY PD referred the investigation to the L.A. County Sheriff's Dept. because the incident occurred there. The investigation centers around indecent exposure ans the crime of annoying or molesting a child. Collins is listed as a "suspect."

I really hope that something is done about this. It is very unfortunate, however, that it has been this long before anyone has said or done anything about this! 

What are your thoughts on this matter?

Thanks for reading!

XOXO,

The Rambling Tea☕

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What's On My Mind

Good afternoon readers!

I know that I haven't been posting any of my daily good morning posts/quote of the days. I am currently working on some things right now in my personal life which kind of takes away my blog posting time. However, I will have more time soon to get back to my regular posting! Also, I have to say thank you to everyone giving me support, commenting, and reading my blog! I truly, honestly, appreciate it!

Right now, I am currently under A LOT of stress. I have been keeping busy ans keeping my mind off of things though. Usually, I am great with stress, but it just seems like lately, NOTHING I do or want has been working out in my favor. The constant let downs, are starting to take a toll on me for the worst. Now, I am usually a happy person and I absolutely LOVE to laugh and I LOVE making other people laugh. But, recently, I feel like my humor is just a mask and it's really not helping me feel better anymore. I am not in a deep, dark, place of depression though. But I am noticing a change in my attitude towards certain things. I am also running out of optimism. I do however, turn to God, and continue to pray to him for guidance. I know that this is just a temporary down, but I am ready for this stormy cloud to leave me.

So, with all of this being said, I want to know what you all do to handle and battle stress? I am out of options.

Thank you again for reading! Please don't hesitate to comment and give me your thoughts and suggestions!

XOXO,

The Rambling Tea☕

Talk of the Town: Mark Zuckerberg Donated MILLIONS to the CDC to HELP Fight Ebola Crisis!; Magic Mike XXXXXXXXXL!

The creator of Facebook is willing to do whatever it takes to help STOP the Ebola epidemic.

Mark Zuckerberg, along with his wife Priscilla, gave the Center for Disease Control Foundation 25 MILLION DOLLARS! He says he wants to stop the epidemic from becoming a long-term crisis like HIV or polio have been. Zuckerberg claims that money is the fastest way to get help to front line responders. He states,"These people are on the ground setting up care centers, training local staff, identifying Ebola cases and much more."

Way to go Mark and Priscilla! Maybe more celebrities should get on board and donate as well!

Ebola has killed 4,000 or more and infected more than twice that number of people mainly in West Africa making it the BIGGEST health crisis in modern times according to some health care officials.

Click here to read my earlier post and see diagrams about Ebola and its symptoms.

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MMMMM! Yes, LADIES! These fine men have been recording Magic Mike XXL in Savannah, Georgia! If you seen the last one, the new one will be 10 times better! MORE dancing and MORE eye candy! Yesterday, Channing Tatum told Tamron Hall from Today's Show, "This is the Super Bowl version of what the first one was," the Book of Life star, 34, said of Magic Mike XXL. "I'm dancing probably five times as much in this one."(US Magazine) We all know that Channing Tatum is probably the BEST dancer out of the whole cast so I am excited to see what he has in store! The MAIN characters I am interested in seeing are, Channing Tatum, Matt Bomer, Alex Petyfer, Joe Manganiello, and Donald Glover(Childish Gambino). I DON'T care about the female cast mates so, I didn't even bother looking them up. This movie is set for a 2015 release! Who is excited??!

Read the original here and check out behind the scene photos!

Thanks for reading!

XOXO,

The Rambling Tea☕

Relationship Chronicles: 6

Good afternoon readers!

Guys, this post is for you! Are having trouble with dating or just can't seem to make it past the first date? Well, look no further because I am about to school you on some things that you may be doing wrong!

5 Nasty Habits That Are NOT Attractive To Women

1. Complimenting: Yep, that's right. I said "complimenting". If done correctly, this can get you far. But if you're having problems in the dating field. you're doing it wrong I'm sure. Instead of saying things like, "You look nice" say things like,"You are beautiful!". Instead of saying "You're outfit looks pretty." say this, "You're outfit looks nice and draws the right amount of attention to you." Don't be generic with your compliments or say things just because you "THINK" that is what she wants to hear. Actually mean the things you say. 
2. SPLITTING THE BILL: Ok, true enough in this day and age, there are a lot of women out there that strive to live equally with men. However, splitting the bill is NOT one of those times. I believe, that men should at least suck it and pay the bill for the first 2 or 3 dates. Even if she makes more money than you, this gesture will score you brownie points and show her that "CHIVALRY ISN'T DEAD".  I know, I know, sometimes you can't afford to do dinner and a movie with drinks all the time. But, if that is the case, you need to go somewhere else. Perhaps a romantic walk on the beach? That's free!
3. Trying to solve her problems: Women are "emotional fixers" and we want to make YOU feel better. Men are "physical fixers" and if there's a problem, you want to fix it. We know this already. However, unless we ask for your help, don't automatically assume that we can't figure out our own problems. Some women need that, but most of us don't. I am not saying don't give us a foot massage after we complain about being on our feet all day. I am saying to empathize (the act of understanding someones problems or feelings) and support us. 
4. Text Issues: A text is a great alternative to talking on the phone. In some cases, I would rather text than hear someones actual voice(I know, I have issues.) Actually, I think that most people might actually prefer to text. However, DO NOT, I repeat, DO NOT text future plans, future dates, and full fledged conversations unless you just CAN'T call. Those things should almost always be done over the phone. Texts are meant for short hand messages and little thoughts during the day. Like, "thinking of you" or "I miss you" are text worthy and she would really enjoy seeing that while she is at work or running errands. But don't text her the itinerary for the weekend you have planned together. Also, we are all grown adults here and although you feel "cool" being able to use emojis on your new IPhone, don't turn into a teenager and send them nonstop. You will look like a teenaged girl and that is not masculine or even sexy, so STOP. We also have auto correct for a reason. This, "Ay girl. How U doin?" Or this, "WASSUP? WYD?" are definitely UNACCEPTABLE!
5. Calories: Unless you both are "gym rats", you better not bring up your caloric intake at the table. Women do that when we are on lunch dates with our friends, NOT with our boyfriends or dates. Doing this, will bring on a sense of judgment whether it was intentional or not. No one wants to feel that way, so STOP IT! Enjoy your burgers and fries so she can enjoy hers too!

Well guys, I hope you enjoyed and I hope you learned something as well! .

Was this helpful? What are your thoughts?

Thanks for reading!

XOXO,

The Rambling Tea☕

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Talk of the Town: Stephen Collins Molestation Allegations Getting Even More Bizarre!

This morning, TMZ reported that Stephen Collins' soon to be ex wife has accused him of using his fame from the show, "7th Heaven" to gain the the trust of two parents so that he could molest their child! If this allegation is true, it means that he would have molested ANOTHER CHILD back in 2007! Keep in mind, the incidents Collins confessed to on audiotape all occured no later than 1984.

TMZ obtained an email that Faye Grant sent Collins where she stated this allegation. Grants says in the email,"prosecutors love 'special circumstances". First off, how does TMZ get this stuff??! Now, if you know anything about the key factors of a pedophile, gaining the trust of the parents to get close to their victim is definitely one of them. This allows access and allow time with the child. Scary right?!

A source connected to Collins told TMZ, "The notion that Stephen used his role on "7th Heaven" for any improper purpose is completely false and just another example of Faye fabricating a story to gain an advantage in the divorce proceedings." I don't know how true this is, but this all is unraveling and making Faye Grant look more and more shady when she could have reported him YEARS AGO!

Read the original article here!

I want to know your thoughts on this!

XOXO,

The Rambling Tea☕

Good morning!

Yay it's Monday! 

Lets face it, NO one likes Mondays! I know that I don't. I have a lot of stressful things going on and I didn't sleep well last night, but that's nothing that prayer and a big cup of coffee can't fix! Let us all be thankful to have another day to correct our mistakes from yesterday. I hope that everyone has an awesome and blessed day!

XOXO,
The Rambling Tea☕

Talk of the Town: TEXAS NURSE TESTS POSITIVE FOR EBOLA!!!!!

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According to the Washington Post, a nurse that was helping treat the 1st US Ebola patient(Thomas Duncan who died earlier this week)has also tested positive. The diagnosis was confirmed by the CDC today. Thomas Frieden, director of the CDC, said that an unknown breach in protocol led to the Texas Health Presbyterian Hospital worker being infected and that federal officials are investigating. He said additional CDC staff are heading to Texas. He also said that more cases are likely.

Frieden also stated that the CDC is considering the treatment of Ebola patients to be conducted at one of the 4 facilities in US. 3 of the 4 have successfully treated confirmed or suspected Ebola cases.
The infected worker, is the first person to contract the disease in the United States.Hospital officials said the worker had been wearing CDC-recommended protective gear during treatment, including gowns, gloves, masks and shields.

The current Ebola outbreak which is said to be the worst outbreak on record of the disease, has already killed more than 4,000 people in West Africa.  

If you don't think this Ebola outbreak is serious, you need to rethink that! 

Check this out!

Thoughts?

xoxo,

The Rambling Tea☕

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Relationship Chronicles: 5

Good afternoon readers!

 I know I am late on this post, but I decided to sleep in today for the first time in a while! Now, lets get to this Relationship Chronicles: 5!

Like many, I have been in a few toxic relationships in the past. If I would have realized what was going on in front of my eyes, I could have saved myself from torture. If you know like I know, a toxic relationship is everything but fun. If it's toxic, detoxify your life and leave! This is not a gender specific post. This goes for ANYONE who may need some insight! Here are some signs to look out for...

7 Signs You're in a Toxic Relationship

1. Someone in the relationship is keeping score: If you or your partner are keeping tabs on how many arguments you have in a day or how many times you or the other messes up, it's time to call it quits.
2. They make you feel stupid: Your partner should never, I repeat, NEVER tear you down. Their job is to encourage, motivate, and bring you up. They should NEVER make you feel bad about the way you do certain things, certain foods you like, or certain hobbies you have. Doing this is a good reason to walk away.
3. Can't take responsibility: Every time there is an argument, your partner never seems to be able to admit when they are wrong, say good bye because that will NEVER change. Grown adults are able to take responsibility for their own actions. If your partner can't do that, well, you have an emotionally immature teenager on your hands if you ask me.
4. Constant break-up threats: If you or your partner can't fully express your emotional needs or feelings without the fear of them causing conflict between you two, then you're definitely in a toxic relationship. Do they say things like," I can't be with someone that doesn't understand!" instead of saying,"It really bothers me when you don't understand where I am coming from." Think about that.
5. Name calling is normal: No, I am not talking about pet names like "baby","bae","sweetie", and "dear". I am talking about the names that are meant to either consciously or purposely hurt you. That is verbal abuse and it is one of the main things look out for. Negative name calling back and forth is not something you do to someone you love or care about. End it!
6. They go MIA: When you are in a relationship and you have an argument or fight, running away or ignoring the person for days at a time that you "love" and "care" about is a definite no-no! If your partner can disappear on you (or if you live with them once you do something to upset them they ignore you for DAYS or even WEEKS) and pick up whenever THEY SEE FIT like nothing ever happened in the first place, then this person needs to go MIA and NEVER return! In my opinion, this is so immature. I have experienced this myself and it is definitely an eye opener of treatment that you will continue to have from this person. Trust me when I tell you, this childish act wont change and you will see how it takes a toll on you after a while if you decide to stay. 
7. You are NOT allowed to grow: People change overtime. As we get older, we start to figure ourselves out. Goals my change, things we value may change, and things we want out of life may change. In a relationship, your partner should be willing to accept and embrace your change. It would be even better if they could change and grow with you. If they try to hold you back from your dreams and goals or try to tare you down and stop you from growing, it's time to move on and grow without them!

That's it readers! I hope you enjoyed! If this helped anyone at all that read this, I have done my job!

I want to kow your thoughts or any of your experiences with a toxic relationship and what you did to get out of it. Talk to me!

xoxo,

The Rambling Tea☕

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Talk of The Town: Are You Afraid of the Dark?;Snapchat Hacked!!

All of my 90's kids, remember this?!

This show used to give me the heebie geebies growing up! But, I still would watch it every time it played on Nickelodeon. If you ever want to watch every episode you can catch them on Amazon Prime which costs money(lame) or you can watch EVERY SINGLE EPISODE ON YOUTUBE for free! How awesome is that?! Just in time for Halloween too! Some genius on Reddit discovered this to be true and I can't thank them enough! I will be watching every episode just to see if they are just as scary now as they were when I was a kid.

If you don't live under a rock, you know what Snapchat is. But did you know that it was hacked?! Yes, according to CBS this morning, hackers are set to leak 100,000 unauthorized snapchat photos including nude ones. If you know like I know, there are a lot of Snapchat users and I am very sure that some of these users are underaged and sending nudes. 4.6 million Snapchat usernames and phone numbers were leaked online last January so this isn't the first time that Snapchat has been a target for being hacked. Apparently, this hackers were able to obtain photos from a third party app that some users used to store photos. The name of this app hasn't been confirmed yet. Here's what the owners of Snapchat had to saw,"We can confirm that Snapchat's servers were never breached and were not the source of these leaks," the company stated on Twitter. "Snapchatters were victimized by their use of third-party apps to send and receive Snaps, a practice that we expressly prohibit in our ToU [Terms of Use agreement]." Hmph, I don't even feel sorry for the people sending nudes over Snapchat of all places anyway. Especially since all of this hacking crap is going on.

What are your thoughts?

Thanks for reading!

xoxo,

The Rambling Tea☕

Relationship Chronicles: 4

5 Ways To Understand What You NEED Out of A Relationship

1. Define your core values: Our core values are the foundation of who we are. In order to know these, you have to truly know yourself and what you strongly believe in and want for your life. Things that are the most important to you in other words. Core values can be: marriage, family, your career, religious beliefs, even how you feel about honesty, trust, and fidelity and the importance they have in a relationship. It would benefit you if the person you're interested in has these same values.
2. Understand your emotional needs: These needs define the finer points of our relationships. Emotional needs are just as important as core values. Maybe you seek the need for intimacy and satisfying sexuality, the need to be honored, and the need to be accepted by your partner. Find someone who meets those needs. Find someone who understands their role in fulfilling those needs. 
3. Identify your love pattern: Finding someone that meets your emotional needs and core values is a plus. Now it's time to understand what you have received from your precious relationships that have brought the best out in you. Growth, fulfillment, safety, security, and the act of being yourself are good things to consider when focusing on your own personal love pattern. Relationships that contribute to positivity, happiness( although things wont always be sunshine and unicorns), and make you feel good are the types that should be sought after. 
4. Test drive a POTENTIAL relationship: Look inside yourself. Find out what's inside of you that will attract the right person for you. Apply what you find to seek a partner. But be careful because doing this can bring on mistakes. Make sure not to ONLY consider good looks and a likable personality as a way to determine if this person is what you need before you actually know them. Don't let your head and heart go in opposite directions when making your decision because your heart will when every time. I guarantee it! Once you have figured this all out, you can "free trial run" the relationship first and just date. This will help your emotional state and give you time to get to know the person before you get too serious.
5. Once you're dating, go in for a three-month checkup:  If the relationship is going well from your observation, start dating more seriously after two months. However,  don't get too comfortable because just like a new car, it is time to get the "three-month checkup". Do this for about 3-4 months. Ask yourself if this person is still holding up to the same standards as you initially thought they had when you first met. If not, pay attention. These early on signs are red flags. Cut your losses before any more valuable time is wasted. If the person is still the same, continue on dating more exclusively. 

I really hope that this was beneficial to someone. We all should sit back and think about what we need in a relationship vs what we THINK we need. A lot of the time we settle for what we want even if it isn't beneficial to us. I hope you enjoyed!

Thanks for reading!

xoxo,

The Rambling Tea☕

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Good Morning!

Happy Saturday!

 I'm sure some of you are probably not even up yet or are suffering from a hangover currently! While most of you were enjoying your Friday, I was at home and in the bed early. The old me would feel badly about that but, I have no complaints. I am currently preparing for some life changing experiences which you all will hear about soon! I am so excited about them and I cant wait to share them with you all!

Anywho, whether you're sleeping in, watching Saturday moring cartoons, getting out and staying busy today, doing the cleaning for the week, or working today, I hope your day is wonderful!

Enjoy your day!

xoxo,

The Rambling Tea☕

Good morning!

T.G.I.F.!

We made it! This week went by so fast! I am so glad it did because it almost seemed as if there was no light at the end of the tunnel. This week has been tiring, hectic, and stressful, but it is almost over! Now, lets get this awesome day started!

I hope everyone has a great day and if not, try your best to make it great!

xoxo,
The Rambling Tea☕

Relationship Chronicles:3

6 Relationship Red Flags

1. Still living at home: Ok, so you met a guy that you like and everything is going great. He invites you over to his place for dinner. You accept, of course. Knock on the door and find that his parents are also over there. This is their house and his mom cooked the meal. Pause! A grown man should not still be living at home with his parents. This is a sign that he's not read to grow up, financially irresponsible and is depending on his parents, or is just a bum. The ONLY EXCEPTION would be that he lost his job and is temporarily down or is taking care of ill parents. Any other reason, RUN AS FAST AS YOU CAN!
2. NEVER invites you over: Nice guy, attractive, adores you, and treats you nice. You have been out to the movies a few times and he has been to your place multiple times. It's been a few months and you're wondering when he will invite you over or take you somewhere other than the movies. Every time you ask, he tells you some lame excuse about how his house is getting renovated or something else lame. PAUSE! He clearly is either ashamed to be seen with you in a well lit place, has a double life, or has a wife and kid at home! Either way, save yourself the trouble and move on!
3. Moving TOO Quickly: A guy you have been seeing for about a week now, is telling you all the right things and making all of the right gestures. He treats you like a Queen and already talks about marrying you! PAUSE! Ok, granted I believe in love at first sight, but seriously?? This guy is either crazy, an ax murderer, looking for a woman to help solve his problems, desperate, or afraid to be alone. He will probably be obsessive and possessive or maybe even aggressive and controlling. UNLESS it's love at first sight, drop him like a hot potato!
4. CONSTANTLY Bad Mouths His EX: Say that you're with a guy that you really like. He has this ex-girlfriend that really hurt him in the past but he can't seem to let it go. Every conversation he talks about things that she used to do that bothered him, or maybe even the countless times that she hurt him. He always compares something that you do to something that she did and almost always immediately gets upset about it. PAUSE! First off, he shouldn't still be talking about her because she's an EX regardless. If he is in a new relationship she shouldn't even be a factor. Plus, he compares you two which is another RED FLAG. Him badmouthing her makes him look tacky, resentful, and has some underlying anger issues. Not to mention the fact that he probably isn't still over her. If this is the case, then THOU SHALL MOVE ON TO THE NEXT!
5. MOMMAS BOY: You're in a relationship with this guy who is great. You really like him and its obvious that he likes you too. The only problem is he is always at his moms house, always on the phone with his mother, lets his mother get involved in everything that he does and she kind of resents you. PAUSE! This is not a good relationship to be in because now you are the "other woman". He is too attached to his mother and if you think there is a future in that, think again girl! He will more than likely put her before you and your relationship, she will be able to meddle in your lives and this will make things even worse. Especially if you get married. This will have you both in awkward positions and my advice to you is to LOOK ELSEWHERE!
6. Fresh Out of a Relationship: Great guy, nice, and attractive. You two have been dating for about 1 month now. He wants to make it official, but fails to remember that he told you a month ago that he had just got out of a relationship. PAUSE! Anyone fresh out of a relationship needs time to heal themselves before getting back out there in the relationship world. Time heals everything. If you decide to go through with being his girlfriend, more than likely you will be a rebound. He has not had enough time to completely focus on himself, so he wont be able to focus on you. He is still in the recovery stage from his ex. You will only be his temporary fix to fill his loneliness. Give him time to get his life together, and then think about going steady. But for now, smooth sail yourself away from that island of misery!

Ladies, I hope that this was helpful and I hope it was enjoyable to read! Guys, I didn't forget about you. I will make a list for you all as well soon! 

Thanks for reading!

xoxo,

The Rambling Tea☕

Original here: Lifestyle

Talk of the Town:Paula Patton Files For Divorce; Stephen Collins Molestation Trial, Ex-Wife and Divorce

Yesterday, TMZ reported that Paula Patton filed for divorce from her cheating and soon to be ex-husband, Robin Thicke.

                                                                                           (justjared.com)

 I know everyone remembers Thicke' and his shenanigans from last year and earlier this year. Well, Patton had enough and decided to serve him those "papers'. Luckily for Thicke, Patton is willing to file for joint LEGAL and PHYSICAL custody of their son. Patton claims the date of initial seperation was February 21.

Read more: here TMZ:Paula Patton Files For Divorce

According to TMZ, Stephen Collins could end up in the clear as far as the New York investigation goes, but his molestation charges will end up being faced in his divorce trial from Faye Grant.

Sources told TMZ that Grant is set to present evidence during the divorce trial, including the audiotape with Collins admitting to the molestation of 3 girls. Her plan is to convince the judge to immediately separate her from Collins to insure that she is protected from losing any assets. Basically, she wants to save herself from losing any money if the victims decide to take legal action against Collins. 

Grant also has been accused of persuading a witness to FALSELY claim that he/she saw Collins molest a girl that is not one of the 3 he admitted to molesting on the audiotape. Once the witness refused, Grant retaliated against the witness. Attorney Mark Vincent Kaplan told TMZ that the witness will testify in the November divorce trial. 

First off, these molestation allegations, as well as the audiotape with Stephen Collins' confession are only coming out because of the divorce which makes both Grant and Collins disgusting individuals in my eyes. Grant has known about her ex husband for all of these years and has said NOTHING. If ANY legal action is taken against Collins, the victims should come for Grant as well because she knew about them. Plus, Grant is only outing her husband to protect herself from losing money!They both deserve jail time if you ask me because if Grant knew about this and said/did nothing, she might as well have been the one doing the same thing!

What are your thoughts about this?

Thanks for reading!

xoxo, 

The Rambling Tea☕

You can read the original articles here:

TMZ: Stephen Collins vs. Ex Wife and Lies TMZ: Stephen Collins Molestation Trial and Divorce

Good Morning!

It's Thursday! Almost there! Hold on for one me day guys because it's almost Friday!

I hope everyone has a wonderful day even if it doesn't seem like it's going to be a good day.

I know that my day hasn't started off as well as expected, but I am going to try my hardest to stay positive and optimistic just to make it through. 

xoxo,

The Rambling Tea☕

The Time I: Got Hit On By A 60 Year Old!

Yes! You read the title right! Read on for the deets:

I am at a party hosted by a really good friend of mine. It was a pretty good turn out. There was a mixture of family and friends. The music was great and the vibes were chill. Everyone was having a good time and so was I. 

If I'm not mistaken, I think I was the only black person there which really didn't matter to me since I am very used to that. Ha! Any who, let's get to what I was wearing and what I think caused the attraction to me in the first place other than my flawless brown skin. I had on a blue, above the knee lace dress.( No, it was not see-through either!) It was not tight, but it showcased the right things in the right places. The back had a cutout heart shape just above my upper back. It was very cute and I looked great in it. 

I am staying to myself and getting a drink at the bar. You know, just minding my business. Then I feel these creepy eyes practically undressing me. It was very unsettling. You know how you can feel someone staring at you and their eyes are like daggers through your clothes and into your soul? Yea, that feeling. So I look over and I can see these creepy dagger eyeballs and the worst thing happens....HE SMILED AT ME! IT.WAS.GROSS! First off, I am NOT attracted to men in the golden years of age unless its Richard Gere, George Clooney, or Denzel Washington, get my drift? Plus, he had what looked like old dentures in his mouth. No offense to anyone reading that wears dentures, or anyone else that may be offended by this for that matter, but his teeth took me back to the George Washington era! You could obviously tell that they were dentures and worst of all, they were not those clean, stainless, and white ones you see on the denture commercials. His were just atrocious and brown like he had been eating wood or sewage! Once "George Washington" smiled at me, immediately I felt my stomach turn and my eyes were just stuck at his teeth.

I look away just so I don't have to make eye contact or see those horrid teeth again! Next thing I know, I feel a light, cold, and clammy tap on my shoulder. I'm thinking to myself,"Please don't let it be him. Let it be someone else, please!" Unfortunately, my first mind failed me and it was good old "George". My heart dropped as he proceeds to ask me how old I am and why I am sitting at the bar alone. I lied and told him that I was 20(I was 22 at the time). BIG MISTAKE because this seemed to fuel him. "George" tells me how beautiful I am and how great I look in my dress. He offers to pay for any food or drink I want and take me out to dinner. GROSS! He then starts to tell me about how much money he made in a year off of his retirement and how much money he likes to blow at the casino on a regular basis. I am already over the conversation as well as creeped out that he felt the need to even approach me. That was easily detectable from my facial expression. Then, he drops a bomb on me when he says that he's married. My first mind was shocked because I don't think he should be hitting on anyone since he is obviously MARRIED, but since he smelt like he had been drinking since the day before, I brushed it off. But wait, there's more! He then proceeds to tell me that he and his wife are SWINGERS and she wouldn't mind a "young, brown skinned, babe" spicing it up in the bedroom! I immediately wanted to throw up in my mouth. Just the thought of this disgusting act alone was enough for me! I awkwardly smiled at him and told him that I was NOT interested and that I would NEVER, EVER be interested. Usually, when you deny someones request, they accept defeat. But not "George". Instead he says," Here's my card. My personal number is on it and you call me if you're ready to have some fun." My facial expression was that of disgust. "George" winked, flashed those gross dentures at me, and walked off as if he had accomplished something. I had never been so grossed out, confused, and shocked in all my life.

Yep, this actually happened. No, his name was not really "George" but since his dentures were as brown as wood, his name was that for this story. 

I hope you enjoyed! I will post more "The Time I:" stories. What are your thoughts?

Thanks for reading!

xoxo,

The Rambling Tea☕

Talk of the Town: Dallas, Texas Ebola Patient Dies!

Thomas Duncan, a Liberian man who was diagnosed with Ebola in Dallas, Texas died today at 7:51 am at the age of 42. He had been critically ill and was the very first person to be diagnosed with Ebola in the US.

                                                  (New York Times)

Since the diagnosis, Duncan had been receiving the experimental drug Brincidofovir and was being treated at Texas Health Presbyterian Hospital. According the hospital, Duncan was on a ventilator, had been receiving dialysis, and his symptoms appeared to be improving. This resulted in the downgrade of his condition from serious to critical this past Saturday.  Of course, the hospital where Duncan had been treated has received a great deal of criticism for failing to recognize his symptoms. He first arrived to the hospital on Sept. 25, received an antibiotic, and was sent home. I am sure he also let the hospital know that he had come in contact with someone who died of Ebola prior to his checkout.

Apparently, Duncan had been visiting family in Texas when his symptoms appeared in September. Earlier in the month, it is said that he assisted a woman in Liberia who later died of the virus as well. This is probably how he came in contact with it. I send my condolences to his family.

Our government needs to take this Ebola virus more seriously. There needs to be some kind of border control or screenings done at the airports. This can get out of control if nothing is done to stop it!

Read the initial article hear:Huffington Post: Thomas Duncan dies of Ebola in Dallas, Texas

What are your thoughts?

Thanks for reading!

xoxo,

The Rambling Tea☕

Good Morning!

It's #HumpDay which means we are getting closer to Friday! For all you hipsters out there, its also #WomanCrushWednesday. That's not really important but just thought I'd throw that in there.

I hope everyone has a great day today! Make it count regardless of where you are or what you have planned for the day. I will leave you all with this:

"Don't LIMIT yourself. Many people limit themselves to what they THINK they can do. You can go as far as your MIND lets you. What YOU believe, remember, YOU CAN ACHIEVE."

Enjoy your day!

xoxo,

The Rambling Tea☕

Talk of the Town: '7th Heaven' dad facing child molestation allegations!

I wish this was a more happier post. But I have to rant about this one! This truly saddens and upsets me because I am a 90's kid and watched '7th Heaven'. Of course, the show has nothing to do with his sick actions. He is at fault for this. So, lets get to the point:

Apparantly, the actor, Stephen Collins, admitted to molesting a young girl and exposing himself to two others. According to TMZ, there was an audiotape of him speaking about these actions in a therapy session with his ex wife Faye Grant. The NYPD is reportedly investigating said allegations due to the fact that one of the girls is currently living in New York. These allegations have also cost him his role in the sequel, "Ted 2". 

This is just disgusting. I have absolutely no remorse, pity, or sympathy for anyone that wrongs a child in ANY way! I hope these children get justice! I also hope that he gets help and jail time. There is no excuse for these actions.  For this to have been kept a secret for so long, who knows if these were the only ones! You just never know these days. These sickos could be living right next door to you and your children, working at the schools, or anywhere for that matter! 

We need to educate our children on what to do in situations where they can be harmed. We also need to teach them not to keep secrets. Have a close and open relationship with your children so they wont be afraid to come to you if anything like this ever happens to them!

What are your thoughts?

Thanks for reading.

xoxo,

The Rambling Tea☕

You can read the full TMZ article here: TMZ: '7th Heaven' Dad Stephen Collins Shocker

Relationship Chronicles: 2

What is more important: Sex or Intimacy?

This is something to debate about right? Some people may not even know the difference between the two. Here's what I think......

Sex:

The word itself is interesting right? A few things come to mind when I hear this word. Meaningless, one-night stands, hook-ups, etc. In my opinion, sex is something that you can get from anywhere. A friend, a random person you meet at a club or party, someone you met online, someone you don't even have feelings for can have sex with you. It sounds a little crazy but, hear me out. Sex is a physical act. Something you do for pleasure or some people might say to "get your rocks off". There are no feelings or meaning in this. Sex is should be considered "the most intimate act", but it can also be an act without consent, an act which is paid for, or a mere physical exchange.

Intimacy:

The word alone sounds better than "sex". To be intimate, that involves feelings and emotions. Intimacy takes time to build. So many things are involved in this. Intimacy can only be achieved when you know and care for someone deeply, when you TRULY love, have a deep connection, and feel completely free with someone. This is why it is so different from just "sex". You don't even have to know someone to have sex with them. This is sad, but true given the morals and standards of so many people today. However, you don't need sex to be intimate with your partner. Intimacy can be mind stimulation, spending quality time with your significant other, connecting through non-sexual contact as well and not necessarily a scene from your favorite erotica themed book.


What if I told you that in a really deep, connected, and strong relationship both of these combined are important? You can have one without the other in a good relationship. For instance, say your partner is not able to actually get physical with you sexually due to some preexisting medical condition. That doesn't mean that you can't connect with them on an intimate level. However, it can be argued that there is nothing more intimate than vulnerably offering yourself to someone in the physical act of sex, therefore connecting the two terms again, even in the case of a one-night stand. Being intimate involves you being open, honest, and giving yourself as a whole to your partner. Doing that can  make your relationship stronger and help through out all aspects including in the bedroom.

What do you think is more important? What do these things mean to you? I want to know your thoughts!

Personally, I don't think that sex is better than intimacy. I think they are better combined.

xoxo,

The Rambling Tea☕

Thanks to http://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2013/04/26/how-does-sex-differ-from-intimacy/ for helping me get a better understanding on this.